One on One Confidential Meetings

Make an appointment with a dean

Dean Linda Morgan-Clement and Associate Dean Terra Winston meet regularly with Lawrentians on a variety of matters. Home life, academics, work and social experiences can sometimes require careful navigation. The Office of Spiritual and Religious Life recognizes that spiritual guidance or simple one on one conversations may sometimes be what an individual needs.

As part of the support services available on campus, confidential reporting as related to Sexual Harassment and Assault Resources & Education (SHARE) can be done within our office.

Support through dialogue an any number of issues is available. Please feel comfortable making an appointment with either the dean or associate dean for a confidential conversation.

Off Campus Religious Leadership

Connect directly with members of a specific faith tradition  

Rabbi

Lowell Lewis
Congregation B'nai Israel

Jerry Zabronsky
Moses Montefiore Synagogue

 

Priest

Father Jim Leary
St. Joseph Parish

Father Bill Schwichtenburg
St. Mary Parish

Father Kyle Sladek
Kaukauna Catholic Parishes


Imam

Islamic Center of Wisconsin


Pastor

Pastor Mike Goodwin
Memorial Presbyterian Church

Pastor Jeff Tengesdal
First English Lutheran Church of Appleton

 

InterVarsity 

Adam Umbarger - adam.umbarger@wineiv.org 

 

By maintaining ties to the spiritual community, we support the Lawrence community and the variety of faith traditions that are represented on campus.
For specific details on where to worship, please visit the People and Groups section of the Spiritual and Religious Life page. 
 

 

Self Guided Support

Support of the whole self is important, whether that support is spiritual, emotional, mental or physical. Lawrence offices collaborate to support each other, and to support the whole student.  Beyond the spiritual self, there are many services available to keep a community healthy. 

Wellness Services are available whether you are seeking counseling, physical health and balance, online mindfulness, or other healthful approaches to being healthy.  

Sanvello Wellness App - Sanvello is an evidence-based, mobile care app designed to relieve the symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression, anywhere, anytime—because symptoms often appear when least expected. It is not a replacement for mental health services, but can provide useful lessons and be used for overall well-being.

 

Health and Wellness Counseling Services

Walk-In Hours
Monday-Friday   1pm-2:30pm

Appointments
Scheduled Monday-Friday,  7:30am - 4:30pm
The counseling center can be reached by phone at 920-832-6574 and the 24/7 crisis line is 920-419-8167
To reach their offices via email, contact counseling@lawrence.edu

 

Grief Resources

A weekly student grief group meets at Sabin House each term.
Upstairs - Group Room

Currently we meet at 11:15 during weeks 3-7. Salad is available so that students don't need to skip a meal. The group is a co-led collaboration between the Office of Spiritual and Religious Life and counselors from Wellness Services. Reservations are not required, but you are encouraged to contact the office so that we will be prepared to welcome you.

Individual meetings with Dean Morgan-Clement are available upon request.

 

Self care and support of others

Life after loss: Dealing with grief
Grieving is a deeply personal experience, but it doesn't need to be a solitary expression of actions or emotions. Coping is a process that can ground a person in a difficult moment and as such requires skills, allowances, and time to process such moments.  Loss is an inevitable part of life, and grief is a natural part of the healing process. 

The reasons for grief are many, such as the loss of a loved one, the loss of health, or the letting go of a long-held dream. Dealing with a significant loss can be one of the most difficult times in a person's life.

Different kinds of loss
Feelings of loss are very personal, and only you know what is significant to you. People commonly associate certain losses with strong feelings of grief. These can include:
Loss of a close friend
Death of a partner
Death of a classmate or colleague
Serious illness of a loved one
Relationship breakup
Death of a family member

Subtle or less obvious losses can also cause strong feelings of grief, even though those around you may not know the extent of your feelings. Some examples include:
Leaving home
Illness/loss of health
Death of a pet
Change of job
Move to a new home
Graduation from school
Loss of a physical ability
Loss of financial security

Sudden versus predictable loss
Sudden or shocking losses due to events like crimes, accidents, or suicide can be traumatic. There is no way to prepare. They can challenge your sense of security and confidence in the predictability of life. You may experience symptoms such as sleep disturbance, nightmares, distressing thoughts, depressed mood, social isolation, or severe anxiety.  Predictable losses, like those due to terminal illness, sometimes allow more time to prepare for the loss. However, they create two layers of grief: the grief related to the anticipation of the loss and the grief related to the loss itself.

How long does grief last?
The length of the grief process is different for everyone. There is no predictable schedule for grief. Although it can be quite painful at times, the grief process should not be rushed. It is important to be patient with yourself as you experience your unique reactions to the loss. With time and support, things generally do get better. However, it is normal for significant dates, holidays, or other reminders to trigger feelings related to the loss. Taking care of yourself, seeking support, and acknowledging your feelings during these times are ways that can help you cope.

Normal grief reactions:  When experiencing grief, it is common to:

Feel like you are "going crazy"
Have difficulty concentrating
Feel sad or depressed
Be irritable or angry (at the deceased, oneself, others, higher powers)
Feel frustrated or misunderstood
Experience anxiety, nervousness, or fearfulness
Feel like you want to "escape"
Experience guilt or remorse
Be ambivalent
Feel numb
Lack energy and motivation


Grief as a process of healing
Being patient with the process and allowing yourself to have any feelings about the loss can help.  It is important to note that the grief process is not linear, but is more often experienced in cycles. Grief is sometimes compared to climbing a spiral staircase where things can look and feel like you are just going in circles, yet you are actually making progress.  If you feel stuck in your grief, talking to a counselor or a supportive person may help you move forward in the healing process.


Culture / Rituals / Ceremonies
You may not be aware of how your own cultural background affects your grief process. Talking with family, friends or clergy is one way to strengthen awareness.  Friends and family may be able to help you generate ideas to create your own rituals. Some have found solace in creating their own unconventional ceremonies, such as a funeral or ceremony with personal friends in a private setting.

Your cultural background can affect how you understand and approach the grief process. Some cultures anticipate a time to grieve and have developed rituals to help people through the grief process. Grief rituals and ceremonies acknowledge the pain of loss while also offering social support and a reaffirmation of life.

Coping with grief
Each one of us has an individual style of coping with painful experiences. The list below may help you generate ideas about how to manage your feelings of grief.

Talk to family or friends
Seek counseling
Read poetry or books
Engage in social activities
Exercise
Eat healthy, good foods
Seek spiritual support
Take time to relax
Join a support group
Listen to music
Be patient with yourself
Let yourself feel grief

Talking to friends who have dealt with loss in the past can help you identify new ways of coping. Only you know what works best with your personality and lifestyle.  It's important to note that some ways of coping with grief are helpful, like talking to others or writing in a journal. Others may be hurtful or destructive to the healing process, like abusing substances or isolating yourself. Healthy coping skills are important in resolving a loss and helping you move forward in the healing process. One way to examine your own style of coping is to recall the ways you've dealt with painful times in the past.Experiment with these ideas or create a list of your own. 

Supporting others who are grieving
As the shock of the loss fades, there is a tendency on the part of the griever to feel more pain and sadness. Well-meaning friends may avoid discussing the subject due to their own discomfort with grief or their fear of making the person feel bad. As a result, people who are grieving often feel more isolated or lonely in their grief.
People who are grieving are likely to fluctuate between wanting some time to themselves and wanting closeness with others. They may want someone to talk to about their feelings. Below are some ways that you can help a friend experiencing loss.

Be a good listener
​Ask about their feelings
Share your feelings
Remember the loss
Just sit with them
Ask about their loss
Make telephone calls
Let them feel sad
Be available when you can
Acknowledge the pain
Talk about your own losses
Do not minimize grief

*Lawrence wishes to acknowledge the Counseling and Mental Health Center at the University of Texas at Austin for the use of their format as related to grief and loss. 

 

Dining and Religious Observance - FAQ

Dining and food options that are specific to spiritual expression can be an important component of campus life.  Lawrence University’s food preparation is managed on-site by Bon Appetit Management Company, which has a history of respectful accommodation and a willingness to ‘come to the table’ to assist students in finding foods that best meet their needs, spiritual or otherwise.

We invite you to visit the
Bon Appétit dining webpage
for additional information on dining at Lawrence University.

Bon Appétit’s options are provided as a partnership with Lawrence University.  Their best efforts are made to provide appropriate signs at food stations and an informative website that answers any number of food related questions.  Daily menus are posted and filtering options within the menus are available to more easily identify which food options meet your spiritual or religious observances. 

Please see below for a few details on frequently asked questions regarding food options and their relationship to spiritual expression at Lawrence University.   

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Q:  Is there halal food available?

A:  Halal chicken and beef are available every week, on varying days.  The Bon Appétit menu planning page has a filter to see what vegetarian options are available.  Additionally, fish is frequently featured on the menu as an option for those not wishing to eat meat.


 

Q: How does Lawrence University handle fasting related to religious observance?  

A:  Spiritual and Religious Life supports students who wish to fast in several ways. Students are encouraged to plan ahead by setting a meeting with the dean at least on month prior to the start of their fast. 

Q:  I don’t eat pork.  What other options are available?

A:  There are a variety of meat and protein options that don’t involve pork.  At breakfast, turkey sausage is available upon request, and turkey bacon is also available. 

Q: Is there a kosher kitchen on-site? kosher symbol

A: There is not a kosher kitchen on-site in Andrew Commons.  Individuals or groups wishing to prepare or dine on a kosher meal may consider speaking with the Dean of Spiritual and Religious Life about the Center’s kitchen and what options are available within that space to keep kosher. 

Q: Can I keep kosher and still eat in Andrew Commons?

A: Dishes and utensils associated with keeping kosher are all disposable.  Kosher specific items are not part of the regular menu but it is possible to keep kosher based on the diet you opt to observe. 

Q: I observe Shabbat. How encouraging will I find the food service on Friday nights and Saturdays? 

A: In order to be able to honor Shabbat, Bon Appetit has created a format to allow students to pre-register with them so that you can avoid the use of technology but still utilize the food service of Andrew Commons.  First, students need to be in touch with April Mancl, Board Manager for Bon Appetit x7309. April will need to know the name of the student BEFORE the meal service.  When the student goes to Andrew Commons on Friday evening or Saturday they can tell the cashier their name and the staffer on the register will manually enter the swipe on behalf of the student. 

Q: What food options are available to me during Passover?

A:  Foods that are made with Passover in mind have traditionally been offered among the general food stations.  Stations may include such items as matza crust pizza, matza ball soup, or matza crusted fish.  Vegan options are also always available. On campus Hillel members have been known to kasher the Sabin House kitchen during passover.